In my time being active in the nonbinary trans community I’ve received countless questions that were something along the lines of “does _______ mean that I’m not trans?” I feel like a lot of these insecurities come from the fact that people just don’t know how common these feelings are among other…
Missive Journal, a new publication of original transfeminist thought, is calling for submissions for it’s first issue! We’re looking for essays, poetry, short fiction, visual art, and memoir written by trans women.
Most of the discourse surrounding trans women has almost nothing to do with our lived experiences, or is perpetually stuck in a state of Trans 101. The transfeminist writings which have most inspired us are ephemeral and scattered, situated as they are in various internet communities. And far too often, these conversations are derailed by an interloper almost as soon as they begin.
Our aim in starting Missive is to foster a different type of conversation about our bodies and our lives. It is a place to move beyond the politics of apologism; it is a place to collect and record transfeminist works.
We plan on distributing Missive as a digital file on a pay-what-you-can model, with proceeds split evenly amongst contributors.
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do people actually do this
do they actually do this
1st binders can be pretty expensive and hard to get especially depending on your living situation
2nd clothing and hairstyles have no gender and applying genders to them is incredibly cissexist the clothing you wear does not define your gender
3rd not everyone has parents or family members who are accepting and physically transitioning can be stressful or even dangerous for them
4th there is no preset criteria for what level of masculinity or femininity you have to reach before you can be considered trans the only thing you need to be considered trans is identifying as trans
5th you use a troll face in your shitty strawman argument your point is instantly invalid
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Let’s talk a little more about why this is not only a shitty attitude to take, but also a very dangerous one as well. All the points noted above are completely true, so lets build on top of them (though in a slightly different order).
First, gender identity and gender expression are both incredibly personal and also highly public. Many transgender folk live in situations where their gender cannot be safely expressed in a public fashion. This does not invalidate their gender identity. Some live in highly controlling homes, some are dependent upon parents, guardians or others for various things needed for bodily survival, and some might work in jobs or careers where their ability to express their gender is limited by bigoted minds in power above them.
Though we tend to see the internet as a haven, online gender expression is not nearly as safe a space as you might think either, as many people (especially young ones) live in situations where their online activity may be monitored to some degree. Similarly, many jobs monitor their employees online behavior, and even rumors that an employee is not behaving “appropriately” online can cost them hours, promotions, or even their career. Over 90% of transgender individuals have experienced some form of harassment at work, and 26% have lost their jobs because of their identity. Not everyone can afford to lose their livelyhood because of their identity.
This means that even if they WANTED to express themselves in your outlined fashion, they might not be free to do so (and this is ignoring your highly problematic use of “girly”, because totalmoetoolbag pretty much summed up the issue with that in item no. 2 on their list). Though it should be a right, having the freedom and safety to explore and express your gender in a free fashion is currently a privileged in our society, and many people live in situations where being trans would put them at risk for homelessness, abuse, violence, and possibly death.
Second, as stated above, binders are expensive. And considering that transgender people are four to five times more likely to live in poverty (DOUBLE the numbers in general population), basing someones gender expression on their ability to bind is classist. Just because you can afford a binder doesn’t invalidate someones identity if they can’t.
Third, 41% of the transgender population have attempted suicide. Let that sink in for a moment. If you had a room with 100 transgender people in it, forty-one would have attempted suicide at some point in their life. Research lists some of the contributing factors that lead to attempted suicide as discrimination, bullying, harassment, feelings of isolation, and the disapproval of family and friends. Do you know what you’re doing when you tell people their gender identity is invalid because it doesn’t meet your pre-set criteria? You are, however unintentionally, siding with the people that contribute to these stress factors. And yes, it is entirely possible to experience oppression while simultaneously being the oppressor in this situation; you can be harassed for being trans and still be contributing to the harassment of another transgender person.
If someone says they are trans, take them seriously. You do not have the right to make that call for them, no more than others have the right to make that call for you. Your experiences as trans do not invalidate another experience as trans just because it doesn’t meet your idea of what being trans means. By continuing to perpetuate the idea that gender identity is dependent upon a specific means of gender expression, you are in fact continuing the very social model that continues to make your life as a trans person difficult at best, and deadly at worst. So stop it.
the OP of this comic is an absolute tool and I can’t believe their blog URL like jesus CHRIST
The Internal Revenue Service (IRS) has affirmed that transgender people can deduct their hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery expenses.Â This announcement indicates that the IRS will follow…
WOOOHOOOOO lol one day when i’m older i’ll do this XDD
SPREAD THIS AROUND YOU GUYS ITS ACTUALLY IMPORTANT!!!
God, this is really good news for me.
For my trans followers.
Get your tax deductions yo!!!
i try not to get excited but this is amazing
Question: So I was just wondering, this is specifically about Cosima and Felix and queer representation in the media. You kind of already got some positive feedback about Cosima, but I’m wondering like what other type of feedback you got and if the queer community is something you keep in mind when creating those characters.
Jordan: Yeah actually, that’s a really interesting question. From the LGBT community, the reaction to Felix was brilliant. I did receive a couple of little things from the straight community, actually, where they felt he was a bit of an ugly stereotype, and he was a bit of a cliche, over the top, blah blah blah. And my response to that has always been this: you cannot collectively, as a society, decide that you are only going to represent one part of a minority. It’s like saying you’ve represented black people on television because you air an episode of The Cosbys. That is not true. Just like you cannot put episode of Modern Family on and say that you’re represented the LGBT community. That’s unfair, it’s exclusionary, and it’s irresponsible. I just don’t know when as a society in television and film it sort of only became okay to represent gay people in the traditional sense where they have a great job, and well adjusted parents, and maybe a surrogate or adopted child. When was that the only way you could represent gay people? And I also feel that it’s a little bit unsavory that anyone from the straight community comments, this person’s comments were, “If I was a gay man, I would be offended.” That’s just not fair because you’re not a gay man. You don’t understand that. That’s so irresponsible as a journalist, as anyone who is writing on a public forum. Not good. so that was my reaction to that. And I love Felix to death. Clichés and not clichés and everything. And maybe that’s a choice he makes consciously, a defense mechanism. There’s a million reasons why. There are so many more interesting things to Felix than who he’s sleeping with.
The D.C. Council on Wednesday gave final approval to a bill that supporters say will modernize and remove unnecessary hurdles in the process for transgender people to obtain a new birth certificate to reflect their gender.
Another day, another step forward.
A Boys’ Camp to Redefine Gender
Over the past three years, photographer Lindsay Morris has been documenting a four-day camp for gender nonconforming boys and their parents.
The camp, “You Are You” (the name has been changed to protect the privacy of the children and is also the name of Morris’ series), is for “Parents who don’t have a gender-confirming 3-year-old who wants to wear high heels and prefers to go down the pink aisle in K-Mart and not that nasty dark boys’ aisle,” Morris said with a laugh.
It is also a place for both parents and children to feel protected in an environment that encourages free expression.
“[The kids] don’t have to look over their shoulders, and they can let down their guard. Those are four days when none of that matters, and they are surrounded by family members who support them,” Morris said.
Morris has stated that her photographic goal for the project is “to represent the spirit of these boys as they shine.” Some of the ways in which the kids shine is through the talent and fashion shows at camp that are popular and for which the campers come well-prepared.
“Some practice for the talent show all year, and others create their own gowns with their mothers or friends of the family,” Morris said. “The focus and enthusiasm is really pretty incredible. Also, it can be very emotional for the parents, especially the families who are new to camp and are experiencing this kind of group acceptance for the very first time.”
Although it is unknown if the kids at the camp will eventually identify as gay or transgender—or even if the way gender and sexuality are defined throughout society will evolve—the camp allows the kids to look at themselves in a completely different way.
“They get enough questioning in their daily lives, so it’s a great place for them to express themselves as they feel. … I feel we hear so many of the sad stories and how LGBT kids are disproportionately affected by bullying, depression, and suicide, and it hangs a heavy cloud over them and kind of dooms them from the beginning. I’m saying this is a new story. This is not a tragedy.”
Morris hopes to eventually publish a book of her work and also launch a large multimedia show that travels the country and the world to show a new face of LGBT youth. The children featured here and in Morris’ project are photographed with the permission of the their parents. Her ultimate goal is to start a foundation that raises money to help underwrite the cost of camp for kids unable to attend. She also hopes to add even more dimension to the project, concentrating on producing more portraiture and documenting the transition the kids experience upon arrival to the camp.
“I would really love to follow the kids into adulthood and see what kind of relationships they develop,” Morris said. “I want to witness the evolution, knowing from where they started and see how life is going to play out for them—hopefully happily—and I think they’re going to have a better transition into adulthood than the generation proceeding them.”
Cathy Brennan, radical “feminist,” has set her sights on a young black activist in Baltimore County, MD. Phylicia Sampson is being taken to court by Brennan, a notorious harasser of trans women and their supporters. Sampson is a recent college grad with few resources, no car and no way to fight back without your help.
As a community, we’ve suffered Brennan’s assaults for a long time—her blog is the best known for outing trans women’s personal information. She believes trans women are men who are infiltrating the feminist community and expends her resources fighting them. The idea that she is now taking her harassment to a legal venue is horrifying. That she has selected a young black woman with few resources to fight back is repugnant.
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omigod I am so sick of this monster of a woman PLEASE help a girl out
gOD she is the WORST
I feel like there is a lot of pressure to know exactly if and/or how you want to transition. People want us to be certain. We usually want to be certain ourselves. I hated being confused. Absolutely hated it. I also hated having people tell me to “stop being confused” and “to figure it out.”
This isn’t simple stuff. For some people it is but for a lot of us it’s really confusing. I also think the older we get the harder it can be. Trying to figure out what we want and trying to wade through 20, 30, or more years of life and experiences is difficult.
It’s not easy to know if you’re experiencing gender dysphoria or if you’re being influenced by other factors. It’s scary and hard. That is okay.
I know I seem confident in my transition plans. Now I am pretty confident in the way I want to go. I was not always this confident or sure of myself. I was confused, I waffled back and forth, I tried on different labels/identities, and I was confused. This is okay.
I just wish less people put pressure on people to know exactly what they want to do relating to transition. You don’t have to know today, you don’t have to know tomorrow, or a week from now, or a year from now. You’ll figure it out eventually - it’s okay that it takes time.