Life In Perspective

Mar. 27, 2012 at 12:41am with 194 notes

Reblogged from madgastronomer

transactivisty:

Cis people, and cis women specifically, please stop making the cotton ceiling about YOU.

This ain’t about YOUR panties.

This ain’t about “shaming” you into engaging in a sex act you attent interested in. Or using the language of social justice to coerce someone into intimacy or sex with someone with whom they are uninterested in.

This ain’t about “shaming cis women into sex” this is about you shaming us OUT of it.

The culture of shame, disgust, devaluation, desexualization, mockery, misogyny, transmisogyny and transphobia leads to a an already desperately isolated and oppressed group to feel shamed, unwelcome, and unloveable in our own communities.

We deserve a chance at love, intimacy, and self-love just as much as any other queer woman, and we can’t get there until we address the larger problem of wholesale exclusion and near universal and vocal disgust towards us and or bodies.

“no more apologies” referenced this idea of being forced to be ashamed and bow to the comfort of cis women.

But here is a secret, those of you who are disgusted by trans women? We never wanted to have sexytimes with you in the first place.

When you make it about you, you ARE part of the problem.

Agreed. If you refuse to examine the horrible ways trans women are treated and their bodies are responded to, often under the guise of ‘sexual preference’, then you are a transmisogynist.

The reaction towards this by some cis women and faab queer people has been absolutely disgusting and I will not support anyone who feels the need to apply gender to body parts and desexualize any woman based on her genitals or the previous state of her genitals.