Dear gay white men…

queeranarchistfeminist:

Stop bombarding us with messages of hope through marriage equality and equal opportunity to participate in state terrorism in the middle east. All the benefits of marriage should be accessible to everyone and not just monogamous gay couples. By shifting the privileged nature of marriage to same sex couples, we are not actually accomplishing any true form of liberation but only participating in the marginal practices of these institutions. The very same practices that have kept us from receiving benefits that heterosexual couples receive through a marriage legal bind. 

This is a reminder that the “Gay movement” is a movement for white upper class/middle class gay white men. I do believe in marriage equality but choose not to give my focus and energy to a movement that is oblivious to the actual needs of people in the LGBTQ community such as housing, legal rights for trans* folks, non-discrimination occupation laws, dismantling the prison-industrial complex and such. Basically, this movement is not for me, is not facilitated by me or people who look like me, and it is constructed to fit the needs of those who want to reform the system, not dismantle it. It is a movement that has been monopolized by those who had access to movement directly and were in a socioeconomic position to facilitate the movement. 

Who’s movement is this? Why aren’t we talking about the queer men/womyn and trans* folks being incarcerated for using drugs, “illegal” sex work and crimanlized just for being homeless? Why are we not focused on creating better resources for queer men who are HIV positive and struggling with drug use? Why are we so focused on a gay marriage? 

When i see gay marriage ads, why do I only see white upper middle class men who are trying to get married? Why has the image of queerness become so assimilated to nationalism, consumerism and gender/heteronormativity? My response to this movement is a resistance to this new form of Nationalism that is spread around the LGBT movement like a disease. 

We don’t need to be fighting for a spot in the Neoliberal capitalist hierarchy just to feel safe from institutional heterosexism. It is the very way that the gay movement  has mobilized itself to beg for inclusion in state terrorism, neoliberal economy structures, and wanting to be a part of the fucked up system that exploits people of color and poor people that makes me want to say, “fuck you HRC”! I ask again, who’s movement is this?

The Repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was not something to cheer about. I am really torn that people I am friends with were happy about the repeal. That this is what success in the gay community looks like? Our goals is to be a part of the consumer hierarchical social structure that has exploited us for so long? Ask yourself, how does that even make sense?

How is being able to be openly gay in order to bomb other countries for oil part of the “Human Rights Campaign” agenda? Why aren’t we trying to stop this war instead? Its draining the economy in ways we could use to fund education, or get this economy back into game, and actually provide financial assistance to those who are stuck at the bottom of the economic hierarchy? 

Why aren’t we worried about single moms of color who are being disenfranchised by our economy and stuck in positions without any class mobility? Why do gay white men use rhetoric that discredits the financial struggles of undocumented mexican womyn? Those who are struggling to feed their kids through house cleaning jobs and hard labor positions? 

If you aren’t asking these questions, how can you say your for equality? Are you that selfish and that privileged that you can’t look beyond the context of your socioeconomic environments?

Well, I have something to say about this. Shut up and listen. Stop trivializing our and silencing our experiences as queer people of color. Stop and listen to our concerns and needs. Check and understand your privilege. Your cis-gendered privilege, your white privilege, your socioeconomic privilege, your academic privilege, your able bodied privilege, your learning abled privilege, and stop ignoring our disadvantaged standpoints! 

If you continue to ignore these concerns and needs of poor people of color, queer people of color, trans* people, etc. we will be forced to create our own movements. How can we organize with you if you won’t fullfill our needs besides yours? How can we cope emotionally, be in the same space as you when you won’t even listen to us? How can we learn to love ourselves and heal from racism, cissexism, etc. if you have to trivialize our emotions through silencing them? 

I am sick of trying to work with you when you can’t be humble enough to check your privilege. You should try to understand it on your own time, instead of expecting me to teach you about your privilege. That is not my job and certainly does not allow for me to heal when I have to check other people’s privileges and am expected as “minority” to educate others about my identity.

So if you truly care about creating a political movement for equality, then you need to start by stepping back, and allowing for us to organize. You have to learn to let go some of the power you have. You have to allow for us to create political demands that will benefit poor/working class people, especially those of color. 

Do not go around claiming that you are for equality when you only contradicting yourself. If you are going to continue with your same political and organizing strategies, then at least be honest and say, “we are fighting for our piece of nationalism and imperialism”. You owe it to yourself to be honest to you and me.

The resource guide Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is looking for contributors to its chapter on intersections of immigrant and transgender identities

Are you an immigrant or refugee, or do you come from a family of recent immigrants? Do you identify as transgender, or express your gender differently than is expected in your culture?

The upcoming book Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is looking for contributors to its chapter on intersections of transgender / immigrant identities. We are interested to hear about your experiences with gender in your culture and as an immigrant. If you would like to share your story, please email it to kate@transbodies.com by September 1st, or mail to Laura Erickson-Schroth, 564 First Avenue, 14D, NY NY 10016 (Email is preferred if you have access).

We are looking for pieces 300-800 words in length. Please also include the name you would like to use (pseudonyms are fine) and your age. If you feel comfortable, also include where you are from originally and where you live today. (Example: Chad, 37. Originally from Burma, now living in Arizona, USA.) The book will be in English, but if you strongly prefer to write in your native language, we will do everything we can to translate for you. If your story is chosen to be included, we will email you the text we plan on using so you have the chance to approve it.

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is a resource guide for the transgender population, covering health, legal issues, cultural and social questions, history, theory, and more. It is a place for transgender and gender-questioning people, their partners and families, students, professors, guidance counselors, and others to look for up-to-date information on transgender life. For more information, visit www.transbodies.com or email kate@transbodies.com or amanda@transbodies.com with any questions or comments.

you know what irritates the fuck out of me?

queerindigenology:

non-native people using the term two-spirit to mean trans* identified (or using the term to identify themselves). it’s not. really, i promise, it’s that simple. for the record two-spirit is an pan-indian (pan means all, yes virginia there is more than one type of indian) term that was agreed upon at a conference of native QTBLG people as a term to idenitfy one’s self as native and queer. why is this important? because modern sexuality can and often is a colonizing force (read settler homonationalism by morgensen). in addition, sexuality does not happen in isolation it is within our experiences as indigenous peoples who exists as in nations that continue their imperialistic actions, policies, and violence.

example, me as a queer native woman could use the term two spirit. i am cis, femme identified, and light-skinned; it is still appropriate for me to use the term and not be offensive. i don’t use it cause i have some issues with pan-indianism being new to it cause i’m tlingit from alaska and it’s different up there.

so end story, if you’re white and talking about how you want to use/identify with the term two-spirit, it is wrong and offensive. Additionally, it’s even worse if you start spewing romanticized bullshit about two genders in one body, opposite gender in another body, more than one gender, etc… why? because although some tribes and nations (oh yeah, btw, there’s a lot of us and we’re different. we’re not just all indians) did have different ways of conceptualizing genders and models that could reflect current trans* narratives and discourses that could reflect that line of thinking; that’s just it, it was a different way of conceptualizing gender. so by continuing to impose colonial sexuality conceptions upon it, you’re continuing to erase indigenous identities, our varied and different cultures, and the fact that we are different people and nations.

to my indigneous peeps, let’s have fun with the term and continue to enrich it with our own amazing and different experiences of being queer/LBGT/fabulous/non-heterosexual/gender fucking/basically being our sweet native selves. 

(oh, and DO NOT even think that admiring us and saying how it’s all sunshine and fucking daises with native communities in regards to queerness and how you like the term so much because of the above logic.) if you like it cause it’s awesome to not have a term that is not occurring in isolation or upholds a single identity politic, go for it, cause it is pretty fucking awesome.

/finally putting my degree to use.

The June 1st Project
A lot of people realize that banning same-sex marriage is unconstitutional, and we’re here to tell you why. And we’re asking you, on June 1st, to make a video, post, status, tweet, or a good old fashioned letter to spread the word and take a stand.
A lot of people realize that banning same-sex marriage, something that is expressly outlined in the Defense of Marriage Act passed by Congress in 1996, is wrong. And a lot of people realize that it’s unconstitutional. But of those outspoken and soft-spoken supporters, not a lot of people are able to tell you exactly why.

That’s what we’re here for.
Check out the description on the facebook page for some great evidence from the Constitution, citations included.

Starting May 17th, we’re going to start contacting various people and encouraging them to spread the word. We’ve got an ambitious list: John and Hank Green and a good portion of the rest of the Youtube community, actors and actresses like Dianna Agron and Matt Bennett, and prominent authors like Tahereh Mafi and Maureen Johnson - all their names are written on a beat-up scrap of paper, and we want to add yours to the list. So do what you can. Upload a video to Youtube, reblog a post on Tumblr, share this page on Facebook, and make sure to let your voice be heard on June 1st.

We want this to go viral.

Now, we may not change much. We may get only three videos, six responses, or maybe just one lone status. And we may be naive in thinking a few kids can help change the course of history, but maybe that naivety is what we need. Maybe we just need a little optimism. Maybe we just need to put one foot in front of the other, and see where this thing goes.

So let’s try it.

roseandtrilby:

sengis:

cheatthis:

stitchmedown:

psylum:

youcouldfuckingkissme:

nolanslifeisaverage:

YES
YESYESYESYES
GSM COMMUNITY THANK YOU
GSM FTW

idgi, are these the colors associated with our ~groups?

Pardon my Ignorance, but what does GSM stand for?

Gender and Sexual Minority.
I’m also ridiculously “Ehn” about these flags, but I only feel qualified to talk about the bi and pan stuff, so shutting up now.
ETA: Also it’s pretty arguable whether the rainbow one is actually for GSM overall or if it’s just gay pride/queer pride. I dunno, I’m not interested in having that argument, just want to point out that there’s a debate.

Yeah I wouldn’t be comfortable with saying that the pride flag is representative of all GSMs, since it is a specifically queer symbol and a lot of people who fall under GSM do not fall under queer.

I’m increasingly uncomfortable with the spreading use of Gender and Sexual Minority to mean LGBTQ people on tumblr. it’s a term used in research, not an identity, and it includes a lot of unrelated groups- swingers, fetishists, circumcised women, etc.- not just queer people. I really dislike being lumped in with straight people during discussions of LGBTQ issues, and that’s what using the term GSM does.

I support using GSM because although I don’t class myself as being ‘queer’, asexuality could do with the help and support of community. As I’m sure other minority groups could. Why do I not like using the term LGBTQA?, because you have to include A on the end to include us. But it’s not just us is it? There are other groups that need this support network. But sticking more words onto the end of LGBTQ is going to make it ridiculously long (I’m pretty sure there is a VERY long version that tries to cover all the ‘minorities’) and the term is going to lose it’s meaning.
I’m not overly thrilled with the term GSM because it’s used in scientific (and negative) ways, but at least it allows for minority groups to feel included.
I’ve heard people who are bisexual, pansexual, asexual etc. complaining they don’t feel like they have a place in the LGBTQ, perhaps because it doesn’t solely focus on sexuality. I’ve also heard transgendered and genderqueer people saying they feel they don’t fit in because it focuses too much on sexuality…. both statements are contradictory. I think they’re contradictory because the LGBTQ doesn’t have a central meaning or ideology outside of ‘we’re different from the norm’. I personally think it would be better to separate sexuality from gender, giving both groups a central ideology instead of ‘we don’t fit into society’s expectations’ (which is what will happen if anymore letters get stuck on the end of LGBTQ$%£&”!!).
Obviously I’m not saying we destroy the LGBTQ community and build separate camps (it’s served an amazing service to so many people), but perhaps alternative ideas could be thought up to allow everyone to feel part of a community.

I did not know a fair amount of the points that have been brought up. They are quite valid, and it is clear to me now that I need to do more research on the term ‘GSM.’
The updated version of this banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community, can be found here.

I’ll make a post about the term ‘GSM’ after I’ve done more research. Keep watch on my blog, transgenderstudentlife, for updates!

roseandtrilby:

sengis:

cheatthis:

stitchmedown:

psylum:

youcouldfuckingkissme:

nolanslifeisaverage:

YES

YESYESYESYES

GSM COMMUNITY THANK YOU

GSM FTW

idgi, are these the colors associated with our ~groups?

Pardon my Ignorance, but what does GSM stand for?

Gender and Sexual Minority.

I’m also ridiculously “Ehn” about these flags, but I only feel qualified to talk about the bi and pan stuff, so shutting up now.

ETA: Also it’s pretty arguable whether the rainbow one is actually for GSM overall or if it’s just gay pride/queer pride. I dunno, I’m not interested in having that argument, just want to point out that there’s a debate.

Yeah I wouldn’t be comfortable with saying that the pride flag is representative of all GSMs, since it is a specifically queer symbol and a lot of people who fall under GSM do not fall under queer.

I’m increasingly uncomfortable with the spreading use of Gender and Sexual Minority to mean LGBTQ people on tumblr. it’s a term used in research, not an identity, and it includes a lot of unrelated groups- swingers, fetishists, circumcised women, etc.- not just queer people. I really dislike being lumped in with straight people during discussions of LGBTQ issues, and that’s what using the term GSM does.

I support using GSM because although I don’t class myself as being ‘queer’, asexuality could do with the help and support of community. As I’m sure other minority groups could. Why do I not like using the term LGBTQA?, because you have to include A on the end to include us. But it’s not just us is it? There are other groups that need this support network. But sticking more words onto the end of LGBTQ is going to make it ridiculously long (I’m pretty sure there is a VERY long version that tries to cover all the ‘minorities’) and the term is going to lose it’s meaning.

I’m not overly thrilled with the term GSM because it’s used in scientific (and negative) ways, but at least it allows for minority groups to feel included.

I’ve heard people who are bisexual, pansexual, asexual etc. complaining they don’t feel like they have a place in the LGBTQ, perhaps because it doesn’t solely focus on sexuality. I’ve also heard transgendered and genderqueer people saying they feel they don’t fit in because it focuses too much on sexuality…. both statements are contradictory. I think they’re contradictory because the LGBTQ doesn’t have a central meaning or ideology outside of ‘we’re different from the norm’. I personally think it would be better to separate sexuality from gender, giving both groups a central ideology instead of ‘we don’t fit into society’s expectations’ (which is what will happen if anymore letters get stuck on the end of LGBTQ$%£&”!!).

Obviously I’m not saying we destroy the LGBTQ community and build separate camps (it’s served an amazing service to so many people), but perhaps alternative ideas could be thought up to allow everyone to feel part of a community.

I did not know a fair amount of the points that have been brought up. They are quite valid, and it is clear to me now that I need to do more research on the term ‘GSM.’

The updated version of this banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community, can be found here.

I’ll make a post about the term ‘GSM’ after I’ve done more research. Keep watch on my blog, transgenderstudentlife, for updates!

My updated banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community.

My updated banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community.

cheatthis:

stitchmedown:

psylum:

youcouldfuckingkissme:

nolanslifeisaverage:

YES
YESYESYESYES
GSM COMMUNITY THANK YOU
GSM FTW

idgi, are these the colors associated with our ~groups?

Pardon my Ignorance, but what does GSM stand for?

Gender and Sexual Minority.
I’m also ridiculously “Ehn” about these flags, but I only feel qualified to talk about the bi and pan stuff, so shutting up now.
ETA: Also it’s pretty arguable whether the rainbow one is actually for GSM overall or if it’s just gay pride/queer pride. I dunno, I’m not interested in having that argument, just want to point out that there’s a debate.

Yeah I wouldn’t be comfortable with saying that the pride flag is representative of all GSMs, since it is a specifically queer symbol and a lot of people who fall under GSM do not fall under queer.

Interesting.
I simply thought the term ‘GSM Community’ encompasses all LGBTQ* identities better than ‘queer’ (which not everyone identifies with) or ‘LGBTQ*’ (the acronym doesn’t include a lot of identities, and I think is rather divisive).
I also thought the rainbow flag was the symbol for all identities within the LGBTQ*/GSM (?) community; I didn’t realize it was a queer-specific symbol.
Are GSM & LGBTQ* interchangable terms?  I’d love to hear more thoughts! Hit up my ask box or submit!
- Noah Eitan, Admin. of transgenderstudentlife

cheatthis:

stitchmedown:

psylum:

youcouldfuckingkissme:

nolanslifeisaverage:

YES

YESYESYESYES

GSM COMMUNITY THANK YOU

GSM FTW

idgi, are these the colors associated with our ~groups?

Pardon my Ignorance, but what does GSM stand for?

Gender and Sexual Minority.

I’m also ridiculously “Ehn” about these flags, but I only feel qualified to talk about the bi and pan stuff, so shutting up now.

ETA: Also it’s pretty arguable whether the rainbow one is actually for GSM overall or if it’s just gay pride/queer pride. I dunno, I’m not interested in having that argument, just want to point out that there’s a debate.

Yeah I wouldn’t be comfortable with saying that the pride flag is representative of all GSMs, since it is a specifically queer symbol and a lot of people who fall under GSM do not fall under queer.

Interesting.

I simply thought the term ‘GSM Community’ encompasses all LGBTQ* identities better than ‘queer’ (which not everyone identifies with) or ‘LGBTQ*’ (the acronym doesn’t include a lot of identities, and I think is rather divisive).

I also thought the rainbow flag was the symbol for all identities within the LGBTQ*/GSM (?) community; I didn’t realize it was a queer-specific symbol.

Are GSM & LGBTQ* interchangable terms?  I’d love to hear more thoughts! Hit up my ask box or submit!

- Noah Eitan, Admin. of transgenderstudentlife

The updated version of this banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community, can be found here.

The updated version of this banner, which reflects the rainbow flag as a symbol of the LGBTQ* Community, can be found here.

Lift the Lifetime Restriction on Gay Men from Donating Blood
Lift the Lifetime Restriction on Gay Men from Donating Blood

My friend Michael Heroux began this petition on April 9th, 2012. He’s gotten 1,101 signatures so far, but he needs to get to 100,000!

Please go sign his petition!

The Federal Advisory Committee on Blood Safety and Availability decided to uphold a discriminatory rule that bans men from donating blood if they have had sex with another male, even once, since 1977. This decision affects thousands of men who wish to donate blood but have been denied. According to the Williams Institute for Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at the University of California, Los Angeles School of Law, 219,000 more pints of blood could be donated if the ban is lifted. In a time where blood shortages cause many problems, such an increase is absolutely necessary. The Federal Advisory Committee on Blood Safety and Availability should lift the ban so that all men who are disease free are able to donate blood. Many U.S. senators, the Red Cross, and America’s Blood Centers all support the lifting of the ban.

The newest and most advanced testing can detect the HIV and AIDS virus up to 2 weeks before it has been contracted. Because of this, I am petitioning to change the deferral period from life to a month. This time period allows the tests to detect any tainted blood. This would allow gay men to donate blood as equally as everyone else.

Please go sign his petition!

UPDATE: Michael Heroux, a Hofstra University pre-med student who started this petition, was recently featured in an article, written by Tim Jensen, that The Huffington Post is interested in running!

Go check out Tim Jensen’s article, Enfield Student Fighting Ban on Blood Donation.

And don’t forget to go sign the petition!

Enfield Student Fighting Ban on Blood Donation

My friend Michael, who started this petition on change.org was recently featured in an article, written by Tim Jensen, that the Huffington Post is interested in running.

Please reblog this post and my post on Michael’s petition so the tumblr community can hear about this! I’ve witnessed the power of the Tumblr community backing petitions such as this one, and I hope I see it again!

And don’t forget to go sign Michael’s petition to Lift the Lifetime Restriction on Gay Men from Donating Blood!

Lift the Lifetime Restriction on Gay Men from Donating Blood

My friend Michael began this petition on April 9th, 2012. He’s gotten 1,087 signatures so far, but he needs to get to 100,000! Please go sign his petition!

The Federal Advisory Committee on Blood Safety and Availability decided to uphold a discriminatory rule that bans men from donating blood if they have had sex with another male, even once, since 1977. This decision affects thousands of men who wish to donate blood but have been denied. According to the Williams Institute for Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at the University of California, Los Angeles School of Law, 219,000 more pints of blood could be donated if the ban is lifted. In a time where blood shortages cause many problems, such an increase is absolutely necessary. The Federal Advisory Committee on Blood Safety and Availability should lift the ban so that all men who are disease free are able to donate blood. Many U.S. senators, the Red Cross, and America’s Blood Centers all support the lifting of the ban.

The newest and most advanced testing can detect the HIV and AIDs virus up to 2 weeks before it has been contracted. Because of this, I am petitioning to change the deferral period from life to a month. This time period allows the tests to detect any tainted blood. This would allow gay men to donate blood as equally as everyone else.

On my absence of late

I sincerely apologize for the recent lack of updates. I have been taking time off of my life for while to deal with some mental & emotional health issues. Content should be back up sometime next week. 

While I’m gone (or any time really), I highly recommend checking out the following blogs for some great LGBTQ* content: 

christopherhart22:

Hey everyone! I just want to give a new blog some publicity. It’s called welovetransbodies!!! It’s a safe space dedicated to empowering all trans* people to feel empowered and comfortable in their bodies. You can submit photos or text. Things that you love about yourself, your insecurities, your experiences. Trans* people of color are especially encouraged to submit! This blog is dedicated to making sure everyone’s voice is heard and that those people who usually are spoken over are heard. So please! Please submit!!!!!!! :) 

Thanks

Signal boost- rebloggable this time! :]

….

christopherhart22:

I am tired of endless resources, blogs, etc…. for transmen. There are literally next to no resources that are current and focused on transwomen. Is masculinity the only identity that deserves any sort of respect?

If you have any tips for me to find things please let me know?

Masculinity is NOT the only identity that deserves respect! All identities definitely deserve respect.

Here are some blogs I know of focused on trans* women:

The following are great blogs run by fabulous people (I will put how each person IDs according to their tumblr next to each link):

  • autumn-and-eve (Autumn, a radical lesbian anarcha-transfeminist)
  • gendertruckery (Chloe, transgender)
  • genderbitch (Kinsey Hope, a polyamorous, mentally ill, neurodiverse, quite likely mildly autistic, currently homeless and poor, etherist, white [Irish/Scottish/Italian/German ethnicity], USonian, queer, skinny, geeky trans woman with disabilities
  • freakytransgirl (Lily, to her loving partner: her freaky trans girl)
  • lestrans (No name given on blog, lesbian and male to female)
  • ellierantsforever (Ellie, a pansexual trans woman)
  • transgriot (Monica, a proud African-American transwoman)
  • planetransgender on blogspot & on tumblr (Kelli, a radical transgender woman of faith [according to Kelli’s twitter])

This post contains Transgender Information Pamphlets (really good resources).

I am by no means an expert on trans* women, nor do I have a ton of resources for/about/by trans* women (though I am working on finding more).

If you know of other blogs or resources for/about/by trans* women, please reblog this & add to the list!